It is true that the love of siblings is unconditional, it does not matter if there are differences, it does not matter if there are arguments, being a family is always being through thick and thin.
It is completely natural that the arrival of a new member of the family causes jealousy and soap opera dramas in the oldest son, and they are so used to receiving all the attention, all the love and all the affection, that they usually do not want let it be shared. Why does this happen?
At just three years of age, children are able to perceive that mom and dad are due to someone else, which is often interpreted as a competitor with whom they must fight to capture 100% of their parents’ love, and that is that at a certain age, selfishness is a natural part that characterizes them.
Before the arrival of a new baby, the older child usually has all the attention and comforts from the parents, from being woken up in the morning with many kisses, preparing his favorite breakfast, going out to play in the park, taking him to places that are of interest to him, please him in any taste or whim, talk, listen to him, advise him, live together, read him a story, pay attention to his skills, etc.
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Undoubtedly all this changes and that is when he misses everything that was done for him, however, now he is no longer the main protagonist, this change is so drastic that the child has no opportunity to assimilate it, but little by little he will have to learn to be shared.
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To avoid undesirable changes in the behavior of our children such as tantrums, parents will have to learn to always be fair and balanced; that is, make sure that what one receives is also received by the other. If you are going to buy a sweet take into account that there are two children, if you are going to buy a shirt remember to buy two; That is why good family planning is important, each child costs, and their arrival in the world is our responsibility.
A good form of inclusion so as not to neglect either of the two is to make the older son feel more useful, so we can involve him to help care for his new baby brother. The good news is that this situation usually improves when the child socializes with other children, it does not matter if at first he continues to struggle to stand out, the same group will naturally balance that egocentric feeling.
Finally, we recommend that you get your child involved early in social activities with kids his age; Going to the park for example, or celebrating a birthday, are good recommendations, remember that as human beings we learn in society so try to do this as soon as possible.
Finally, if things get out of control, it is advisable to enlist the help of an expert to advise them on the case and intervene. So act fast because time will be a key factor.
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