A broken marriage can show clear signs of separation even while living in the same house.
Some marriages with problems and on the verge of separation tend to Being couples that DO NOT sleep in the same bed but live in the same house, when they reach these limits it means that things are getting worse and worse.
Juan Tonelli advises what you should do when this happens with your partner, to begin one of the most common mistakes is that after a fight the couple sleeps separately , experts say that you should never allow your partner to sleep in another place that does not be with you during the marriage, because the problems get worse.
KNOW THE CASE OF TOÑO : I am going through a difficult situation, almost a year now and I cannot find a way to save my marriage, she does not listen to me, she only shouts insults, ignores me and does not tell me if she already has another relationship.
We no longer live together or rather we don’t sleep in the same bed, she separated from me, went upstairs and I stayed downstairs alone. She tells me she wants to be alone, but that makes things more difficult for me. What should I do? Do I leave it like that or do I keep insisting?
I have already told him that he can go with that person if he exists, because he does not answer me if he has another man, if he no longer feels anything for me after 20 years of marriage, two children I do not know what to do. I love her, I love her that’s why I’ve asked her to make the passes, but maybe it’s my mistakes that have stopped her. Can you give me some advice.
RESPONSE FROM JUAN TONELLI
We are very sorry for the situation you are going through. It is very painful. From what you say, it is impossible to know if your wife has another relationship, if it is something consolidated, or if she is only worn out by 20 years of marriage or tired of your attitudes and characteristics.
It is difficult for him to confess that he is with another person because in general he "takes care" of the other by lying … I do not agree with this behavior but I assume that it is the most common. Be that as it may, the central point is that they can dialogue, listen to each other. Obviously that depends on both. If she doesn’t want to, you just won’t be able to.
Perhaps the only way left is to give him a little time, and ask him to talk, to understand what happened. For this to have a chance of happening, it is very important that she perceives that you are not judging her, but that you are making an effort to understand, as if you were a biologist. If you are going to condemn her or get angry if she tells you something that hurts … she will perceive it and will not open up.
It is very difficult, but I think it is the only way. Understand. And for that it is necessary that both have desire to do it. It does not depend only on you, and you will not achieve it by force. So patience, finesse, and confidence. A hug and encouragement!
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