All parents want the best for their children, but doing it is the real challenge, and it will depend a lot on the emotional stability of both, since bad experiences or resentments can lead them to continue making more mistakes.
Gone are the days where couples choose to have many children, before it was common to hear grandparents say that "The children that God sends me is fine", now many couples have changed their thinking and went to the other extreme, that is , have only one child, but it is important to know the basic tips to raise it.
The reasons why couples choose to have only one child can be many, from economic issues, lack of time to educate them, the father or mother does not treat them well, or even that a second pregnancy can be life-threatening. of the mother, in short, the fact is that it is not bad to stay with only one child, what is bad is not learning to educate him in the correct way.
If you are already determined not to give him a baby brother and focus only on taking care of your baby and yourself, it is important that you know what are the basic things that you should promote in the little one so that he can grow in a psychologically healthy way and that later he does not become in an adult, frustrated, bitter, aggressive or with other traumas and problems.
Teach him to share and negotiate: As he is an only child, he is used to being the center of attention, he may even present behavior of a bossy child, where he wants what he says to be done when he asks for it, so it is important that live with other children his age, either with neighbors, cousins, or at school.
Mom and dad’s time is also shared: As we said in the previous point, they are used to being the center of attention and believe that everything revolves around them, that is why it is important to teach them to respect couple times, with the family and friends, in this way you will prevent him from becoming a tyrant.
Respect your family and society: As an only child, it is normal that most of the time you spend surrounded by adults, but it is important that you learn to behave where you are, that is, you are not authorized to interrupt conversations between adults, and you must also learn polite rules like saying hello, thanking, or asking for a favor.
Motivate your imagination: As most of the time will be spent with adults, it is normal that you look for entertainment and turn to video games and tablets, but it is important to motivate you to use your imagination and learn to entertain and have fun alone.
Take care of your words: Being an only child, it is normal for parents to fill their child with praise, praise and criticism from their parents, however, if parents demand more than necessary or reinforce their actions with constant praise, they can harm the perception that the child has of himself, that is why it is important that parents measure their words and assess the progress of the child avoiding comparisons with friends, cousins or neighbors.
Money does not buy happiness: Parents tend to fill their only child with gifts on important dates as a way to compensate for the lack of a sibling, but it must be taken into account that the child’s attention is limited and does not pay attention to so many gifts, the most important thing is to teach values such as solidarity, justice, friendship, generosity, among others.
Family contact: In the absence of siblings, contact with cousins and grandparents is a good alternative. And finally, do not solve the problems of coexistence: Better teach him strategies to find playmates.