Contrary to what many people think, by taking time apart we can improve the relationship and revive love
Some relationships reach a point where they wonder if it makes sense to continue together or it is best to end everything. It is at that moment when they begin to consider taking time to save the relationship.
In fact, this situation is increasingly common, since the desire of every human being is happy and enjoy life and seeing that the relationship is not what they expected or changed for the worse, they begin to consider the possibility of ending, without However, not all is lost and in some cases taking time can save the relationship.
If the doubts about your happiness with the union began, you put in the balance if it is worth continuing or only your children, marriage or some material good are stopping you, it is possible that you find yourself in an internal fight where the best thing is to look for a space in solitude to be able to take a break and above all the best decision.
According to several experts in couple relationships, from the moment the couple’s love is doubted, it is certain that there are some aspects that are causing us conflicts. So the best thing is to propose a time of separation or what is also known as temporary separation: to be a period without contact and away from the couple to gain distance and be able to clarify ideas and needs
Keep in mind that it is extremely important to be clear about how the separation will be carried out. It is essential that they establish limits, the guidelines that are to be followed and especially the aspects that they will take into account so that this temporary separation meets the objectives.
Try to avoid contact with your partner
Only if we cut all contact, the separation will do its job. If we want the period to be truly fruitful, it is of the utmost importance that agreements are marked in which we try to avoid the maximum possible contact.
Otherwise the separation will not actually be taking place. In case there are children in common, this contact will only be directed to them to know if they are well. Besides, it should be tried that each one of the members of the couple spends half the time with the children so that there can be a balance.
They have to know what is wrong with them
All this time should serve them to correctly analyze what are the aspects or reasons that do not allow them to have a happy relationship. In case they do not succeed and cannot find the cause of the problems, it is best to go to a professional to help you discover it.
They should talk about it with the couple, even if it costs them work
After they have separated, it is very important that they have a reunion day in which they can say and talk about the things that are happening to them, their doubts, needs, as well as the things they want to change. If they cannot have good communication and cannot reach an agreement, they will have no choice but to look for other alternatives.
They can consider going together with a professional, write a text where all those that we want to express but cannot speak are reflected.
Decide what are the steps to follow so that the points that do not work can be solved and thus be more clear if there is a possibility of improvement or not
They should consider the issue, remember that saying what is happening to them without marking a path to follow will not help them. Otherwise they will get frustrated since they will not know the causes or what to do about it. With this, they will only make the relationship fade little by little.
So it will be time to decide what you need, how you can improve the relationship and raise it with your partner.
In case the problem is discovered it will be more than a personal crisis of one of the members and has nothing to do with the relationship. This way it will be easier to face it
There is a very great possibility that the member of the couple who is not feeling well is the one who needs a space. Or, on the contrary, you can work together (you just have to make sure that the person who does not have a crisis adopts the role of savior and / or caregiver). Above all, it is essential that a time limit be set so that evolution can be evaluated, since it can be something in the very long term that ends up wearing down the couple and / or relationship.