They sent me photos as proof that my husband has impregnated the lover, what should I do? I don’t know I have claimed it yet, but I want to do the right thing where my children are not so affected
I feel devastated, I just found out that my husband impregnated the lover, anonymously they have sent me an envelope in which my husband comes out touching the belly of his lover, I tell him my big problem because I feel that it is the end of my marriage, of my world and I am afraid for my children who are the ones who are going to suffer the most.
I do not know whether to run with my mother who is the one who always supports me, to leave my house or to run to him, in the envelope, a letter came where they insult me, they tell me that I am a cuckold, that he and his lover have more than one year of relationship.
They tell me all the data, they have even given me the address of the woman with whom he will have a baby, I feel so disappointed in this man who had me blind with love, I who have always believed in the marriage that we have formed, we have three beautiful children, and I come up with this, by now.
I have all morning that I cannot stop crying, I have had to lock myself in the bathroom for times because I feel that my children will realize, they are already grown up, the youngest is 15 years old.
I feel like my husband got fed up with me because I’m already an old woman, maybe he wants an adventure, but it got out of hand, he got that woman pregnant, a woman who is probably his second family and I didn’t even know about it.
All my life I have dedicated myself to my house, it is true that we have had ups and downs, but I never thought that my husband would reach so much, with good reason he told me months ago that it was better to sleep in separate beds because according to him he had felt bad and he felt like he suffocated when we slept together.
Now I begin to connect the dots, those late arrivals, and I thinking that I had the most hard-working husband in the world, I had always felt proud of my husband, because with my children he is a good father, as a husband he was good, but the deception has me hurt so much.
I don’t know whether to get my children together and tell them the whole truth, I am writing to the experts at As a Couple for advice. What should I do?
Expert response: Dear friend, thank you for communicating with us, we have read your letter and we understand your pain, our advice is:
The most appropriate thing is to ask yourself, What do you want?
If you want to forgive and continue as if nothing happened.
If you want to talk about it first with your husband, make a decision and then the two of you talk to your children.
If you wish, you can deal with the matter legally, only you and your lawyer, advise you on what is convenient for you when claiming and if you want to separate that you already go with weapons.
Infidelity is one of the actions that are difficult to forgive, but it is everyone’s choice, it is to take into account all the scenarios.
Here your children are already grown up and they will know how to understand you and support you in the decision you make, regularly as it is an infidelity, the one who must leave the house is him and not you. Have confidence in yourself, and defend your harmony, your inner peace, and that the laws take care of your husband.