The arguments and everything negative that happens in the couple affects the children tremendously, and even more so when we do not have the care to do it in their absence, that is why their emotional health depends on us.
As parents we reach a point where we feel very proud of our children and we rise up saying how much we love and respect them, however, in the heat of an argument we only focus on winning that dispute, and little we It matters if our son or daughter is present and listening to everything, ignoring or pretending to ignore that they still do not realize what is happening.
The reality is that for children, the worst scenario they can experience is to see their parents yell at each other and be offended, which will gradually transform their behavior until they become rude, violent or aggressive. .
At this point we ask ourselves, what is wrong with that child? and we believe that he is adopting bad behaviors from abroad for which he is being unjustly punished; We even thought about taking him to a psychologist because he is having behavior problems and failures at school, when in reality, the root of everything comes from what he experiences at home, especially from the problems that his parents are involved in.
Every time the children witness the problems at home, they copy the behaviors, because firstly it is what they are learning, and secondly, by negatively impacting their emotions, they naturally stop being innocent and good souls to be violent.
Sometimes we are not truly aware that they are just children, and therefore, they are more sensitive to everything that happens to them, witnessing the problems that their parents experience on a daily basis directly affects their health, especially blood pressure and heart rate, and even if they are small and you think that nothing happens because of their age, it does happen, and a lot.
As they grow, children are increasingly involved in conflicts, at the time they can get through primary school well, but it is precisely in secondary school when they show their highest rate of aggressiveness, that is why it is said that adolescence is the most difficult, when in truth there is no difficult child, rather the difficult thing is to live in a world that is inappropriate for them full of problems.
Every time a problem has arisen, you should try to solve it before starting a new one, because unfortunately they are unavoidable, but if they have to be solved so that first, the situation as a couple improves, and second, so that the impact is lower in children.
Be very careful about trying to deceive the little ones, even if you make them believe that everything is fine and that mommy and daddy are not angry, they can perceive through their actions that this is not the case, so you should not underestimate them; On the other hand, if the problems are excessive and that relationship is no longer healthy, seek professional help or, alternatively, separation, it will be painful for everyone, but we will put an end to many more unpleasant episodes.